It’s essential for men to recognize that as women grow older, it can become more challenging for them to manage the same level of household upkeep as they did when they were younger. When you notice this, try to approach the situation with patience and understanding.
My name is John, and I’d like to share how I managed this dynamic with my wife, Linda. When I retired a few years ago, Linda began working a full-time job in addition to her part-time role to help with extra income and the health benefits we needed.
As time passed, I noticed she wasn’t quite as spry as she used to be. I typically get home from the golf course around the same time as she finishes work. Even though she knows I’m hungry, she often says she needs to rest before making dinner. Instead of getting upset, I encourage her to take her time and let her know I’ll just nap on the couch until dinner is ready.
Once, she started leaving dishes on the table for hours after dinner, which was unlike her. I gently remind her throughout the evening that dishes don’t clean themselves. I believe she appreciates my encouragement, as it seems to inspire her to tidy up before bedtime.
Linda sometimes mentions how hard it is to find time to pay bills during her lunch break. I just smiled and reassured her, suggesting she spread it out over a couple of days. And, to lighten the mood, I joke that skipping lunch occasionally might not be the worst thing (you know what I mean). I pride myself on being tactful in these situations.
Even with simple tasks, Linda seems to take more breaks these days. When she stopped halfway through mowing the lawn for a rest, I told her to sit down with a nice cold glass of lemonade. Of course, I kindly suggested she make one for me too while she’s at it.
I know my level of patience and support might sound saintly, but I assure you, it’s not easy. Many men might struggle to show such understanding, but I believe that a little patience and a lot of tact go a long way.
**EDITOR’S NOTE:**
John passed away unexpectedly on July 23. According to the police report, he was found with a golf club lodged in an unfortunate location. His wife, Linda, was taken into custody and charged. However, an all-woman jury deliberated for only 10 minutes before acquitting her, accepting her defense that John had an unfortunate accident involving his golf club.