I recently had to face what I thought would be an uncomfortable personal conversation.
I fussed all morning, then went to visit the person involved. No problem; all went well.
I was told that “thought process” was known as borrowing jacks. The expression comes from a story written by J.P. McEvoy and first published in the Reader’s Digest back in the 1950’s.
A fellow was speeding down a country road late at night and BANG! went a tire. He got out and looked and damn it he had no jack. Then he said to himself. “Well, I’ll just walk to the nearest farmhouse and borrow a (car) jack!”
He saw a light in the distance and said, “Well, I’m in luck; the farmer’s up. I’ll just knock on the door and say I’m in trouble, would you please lend me a jack?
And he’ll say, why sure, neighbor, help yourself – but bring it back.”
He walked on a little farther and the light went out, so he said to himself, “Now he’s gone to bed and he’ll be annoyed because I’m bothering him, so he’ll probably want some money for his jack.
And I’ll say, all right, it isn’t very neighborly – but I’ll give you a dollar.
And he’ll say, do you think you can get me out of bed in the middle of the night and then offer me a dollar? Give me a ten dollars or get yourself a jack somewhere else.”
By that time the fellow had worked himself into a lather.
He turned into the farm’s path and muttered. “Ten dollars! All right, I’ll give you a ten dollars.
But not a cent more! A poor devil has an accident and all he needs is a jack.
You probably won’t let me have one no matter what I give you. That’s the kind of guy you are.”
Which brought him to the door and he knocked … angrily and loudly.
The farmer stuck his head out the window above the door and hollered down, “Who’s there? What do you want?”
The fellow stopped pounding on the door and yelled up, “You and your damn jack!
You know what you can do with it!”
Then he walked away.
If you have ever worked as a salesperson, you may have heard of this story.
Sales managers used to share this story as a reminder to not assume what would happen on a sales call.
Do you borrow jacks?
Do you conjure up dragons to slay as you worry about your business, or a relationship, or whether you’ll be able to make a sale?
Did you notice the guy didn’t get his tire fixed?
Here’s another scenario.
Something goes wrong for a job … when you’re not there.
When you hear about it, do you work yourself into a lather over incompetent employees, or the owner from hell?
Or do you take a calm, open-minded approach to figuring out what went wrong and why it happened so you can solve the problem?
Borrowing jacks can make any difficulty worse.
It can stop you from addressing an awkward situation because you’re sure it’ll go bad.
It’ll keep you from having necessary conversations because you’re afraid of what they’ll say.
It also won’t improve your relationship with whoever owns the jack.
Keep a calm head and do what needs to be done.
The results are seldom as bad as your imagination.
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” — Henry Ford